Friday, March 22, 2019

Learn to Skate

Behind the house at 1777 South Street were three ponds tucked into a wooded area.  They were imaginatively named “The First Pond”, “The Second Pond”, and “The Third Pond”. Rarely were they ideal for skating because the surface would perpetually be leavened with leaves, twigs and branches, or snow. For early efforts at learning to ice skate, however, they were perfect.  There were frozen streams, too, that connected the three ponds, allowing you to conveniently skate from one to the next.  I was forever pursuing my brothers, who without warning would all race off to the next pond.  I think I cried a lot when they did that, not because they didn’t see me as their equal, but because of scary woodland creatures who would then be able to easily pick me off.  And that comment about “equal”, how could they consider me one of the gang when, on the ice, all I managed to do was tentatively walk around – in my skates – with crooked ankles nearly grazing the ice, arms akimbo?  It was a style that forced my body to do splits every ten feet or so.  Whenever the command “move!” was issued as I crossed into areas where frenzied hockey action was taking place, I responded with a fresh startle reflex much like an infant who has been presented with a sudden loud noise or a bright light, my feet shooting out from under me and my arms splaying.   And I cried.  I was better at locating logs to sit on. . . and even better at experiencing hypothermia.  I should add that I did have an important role; whenever the puck sailed into the surrounding woods, I was sent to retrieve it.  Consequently, my skates required frequent sharpening. (pfff!  As if!). I grew up not very fond of skating. . . until I met David, and Johnson’s Pond in Raynham provided a new venue for that dance that teenage boys and girls do in large unsupervised groups.  My feet were just as cold then, too, but I didn’t mind. At least I didn’t cry.

Up for some shinny?

Have I mentioned that our family was BIG into hockey?  Well, it bears repeating.  All my brothers were groomed from an early age to be ice hockey players.  Mom and Dad imagined themselves, at least in the beginning, as devoted hockey parents.  So, I remember as a child watching my brothers in training, each, in turn, skating around the various ponds in Bridgewater, pushing a wooden kitchen chair in front of them.  Youngsters throughout Bridgewater likewise took to the area’s frozen bodies of water; there were several ponds and lakes that provided great conditions for skating: Carver Pond, Skeeter Mill Pond, Sturtevant’s Corner, and the Ice Pond (aka State Farm Pond).  It didn’t strike me as especially fun; therefore, despite all the enforced hours logged on area ponds, I never progressed.  Impressed as I was with Peggy Fleming, her moves just totally flummoxed me.  

The 1960’s and 70’s were the sweet spot, I believe, for pick-up games in which teams were naturally selected by blood ties.  The baby boom generation – lots of families with lots of kids – provided a ripe culture for casual team sports.  The Bruins’ success, too, in the early 70’s converted young spectators into NHL aspirants.  Although gear was optional, hockey gloves were one of the more prized pieces of equipment, given that rules of engagement were rather loose, and hands were constantly getting smashed.  It didn’t matter if they were mismatched, or had holes, or even fit properly.  On the other hand, a helmet, perhaps the most important appurtenance from a long-term health standpoint, was alarmingly absent. Although randomly assembled teams were a perfectly acceptable option, in many cases entire teams could be made up of a single family or a neighborhood combination of families.  Hence, there were rivalries that evolved rather organically; the Morrisseys and Maloneys, for example, nurtured a competitive relationship that regularly included family sponsored fighting.  Kevin, of course, in his typically zealous manner, nobly did his part for the Morrisseys.  As feared as he might have been by his foes, there was great admiration of his skill set, which extended even to ice surface management.  Few kids, for example, would risk submerging their own vehicles in order to clear the ice of snow.  As the baton was later passed to younger brothers Marty and Bob, the family names changed; the Heslin brothers and the Blakelys brought greater finesse and skill to the pond hockey scene.  At this point, kids could just generally boast a more expansive indoctrination.  Organized hockey had arrived in Bridgewater.

Pick-up style hockey continued to enjoy popularity in subsequent decades, but, naturally, the game has experienced a metamorphosis.  What we observe today is akin to a coming-of-age; rarely do we see genuine, improvised games on local ponds.  It catches our eye when we do see a small handful of kids with sticks in hand, movement back and forth between two makeshift goals on a suitably frozen pond.  Even the length of the season has shortened; in earlier years it might have been possible to take to the ice in November; extended periods of cold are much rarer these days.  

Baby boomers never really left their passion behind, however. Pick-up games now more readily conjure ice rink settings, and schedules are firmly set.  And if you live in cold winter states such as Minnesota or Colorado, outdoor pick-up tournaments, which draw thousands of participants and are often sponsored by big-name purveyors of beer, bring you that much closer to your unfulfilled dream of playing professionally.  They’re highly organized programs, with perimeter boards and goalie nets that are the real deal, (one even boasts Zamboni service!), so prepare accordingly.  Make sure you arrive with matching gloves, fashion forward attire, and a mouthguard for your few remaining original teeth.  

Thursday, February 7, 2019

A Durable Bond

This post originally appeared on my website (www.JoyHandbags.us/blog/) in March, 2018.

Very soon after I met George, it was important to me that he and my oldest brother Kevin meet.  (George had actually met my mother before he met me, as a work study assignment at the prison; she took good care of his skinny boned body by regularly feeding him sandwiches and other tasty morsels from the maximum security kitchen).  Kevin would say that I had, up to that point, made unwise decisions where it concerned boyfriend choices.  More accurately put, he would have used descriptors such as “asshole” or “puke” or “moron”.  He took seriously his responsibility to look out for me, and, really, what did I know about what was good for me. . .  beyond my academic record, that is?   And academics were always a most serious part of my life, but more on that later.   

It wasn't a bromance that I would have predicted.  These brothers-in-law shared a few key characteristics that should have made them constant irritants to each other; both were assertive, stubborn, opinionated, and first-born sons of large families.   Taking each other’s measure, they each recognized in the other a kindred fierceness that gave reason for eager expectation of fun times ahead, fun being a relative term; I invite you to imagine feisty, sometimes gloves off, intellectual jousting, ever more satisfying when you have an audience of conflict-averse siblings and in-laws.  From the beginning, and throughout their friendship, their interactions relied upon healthy, vigorous debate.  Those two could debate till the cows came home!  And with such fervor!  It took me a while, but I learned that their spirited discourse was a sign of mutual admiration, not displeasure.  The ways in which Kevin and George communed relied upon a couple of traits that they shared and which defined their close relationship:  passion for analysis and problem solving, and a love of being on the water. . . or ice.

A new boat and a new truck...

No sooner had George and I said, "we do", then the first gauntlet had been tossed down.  We had a brand new truck coinciding with one of Kevin's shiny new boats.  My boys were overly-excited to get over to Lake Nippenicket and spend a blissful day of escapist activity.  Let's pause here for what should be obvious clarification.  Deep within the brain stem of the average fisherman is an instinctual impulse; they must, I mean, absolutely MUST, be launching their vessel before daybreak.  And, also typical of fishermen (or so I imagine), is a reason-deprived state of mind that accompanies such an early hour.  Being men, they would not have paused to reflect on the nutritional returns of a balanced breakfast.  They would have instead sprung directly from bed to driveway, each expecting to be occupying the driver's seat in mere minutes.  Pre-daybreak tranquility was punctured by each of them forcefully claiming his right to drive the truck.  "It's my truck!" alternated with "It's my boat!"  And thus began a nearly forty-year partnership, one could say defined by a ball hitch.

Time can't diminish a true bond...

Summer 1978 sits apart in my memories for so many reasons, most of them really good.  It wasn't the only period marked by pre-dawn exchanges between George and Kevin, but, as years passed and "family generation" became the top concern for both families, their escapades became more episodic.  Sometime after 2006, however, when face-to-face time became more exquisitely consequential, the two friends renewed the taut bond that had always tethered them together.  

"Hard Water" on a Plymouth Lake...

Kevin's latest amusement was ice boating.   Being the engineer, it made perfect sense that he would design and build his own ice boat.  When Kevin invited George down for a day careening across his lake, that boy was out the door before there was even a tiny suggestion of sunrise.  With no experience, and perhaps with scant operational understanding, he was nevertheless an eager accomplice.   He came home at the end of that weekend with a clearly defined rectangularish bruise on his left buttock, having landed hard on his wallet as his only way to stop the dern thing.  (I've always felt that where it concerns Kevin, my dear husband was willing to abandon his wary approach to life; he trusted him unwaveringly.  Not a bad thing, really.)  Naturally, George’s adventure had thrilled and energized him, and he quickly jumped on board the design craze, excited to plan and construct his own boat.  Somewhere around this same time, my other brother Chris and his wife Priscilla gave him a retired sail that had already been idling away the years in their Berkshire lake cabana. 

George imagined a much different outcome than Life had in store for him.  Racing unfettered across a lake in Plymouth was as liberating an experience as one could hope for.   A small rectangular bruise was a welcome price to pay.  (Kevin, you can be a pain in the ass at times, but my heart pinches just a bit when I contemplate the special friendship that you and George had, and the one-of-a-kind experiences that only you, and I mean, ONLY you, could concoct for him.)  Sadly, the red and white furled sail languished for twelve years in our garden shed.  I just couldn't part with it, but I had no idea what to do with it.  An iceboat was not one of my plans.

A brittle and stained sail...

I have followed the success of the Sea Bags line for years now.  They make sturdy totes out of upcycled sails.  One day when they were but a dewy-eyed start-up, I peered through their windows in Portland Maine and considered their future.  Because I saw their trajectory as not so different from my own, or at least what I imagined as my own, I privately prayed for them to "make it".  They HAVE made it.  I haven't...yet.  

When my daughter Megan and I lowered the little red and white Berkshire sail from the rafters of our shed this week I was so hopeful that there was sufficient life in it so that it could be molded into something new.   I gambled and put it through the wash, and set it out to dry.  In the end, there was precious little to be redeemed.  Most of it was too brittle and stained to be of any use.  

Berkshire sail cum picnic bucket
Ultimately, though, I have an adorable picnic bucket that can be of little value to anyone but me. It may sedately perch on a gentle dune at Duxbury Beach or a gentle incline on the banks of the Merrimac River.  It won't be asked to finesse the winds on a Plymouth lake, but I'll not stay my imaginings if they press me to envision a pair of ecstatic, unrepentant old geezers sailing across the "hard water" of an off-the-beaten-path lake in Plymouth, Massachusetts.